5 Tools for Calming Down: Tips for Teens With Autism

Everyone has their good days and their bad days and we could all use some help practicing patience sometimes. That’s not different for teens with autism or other neurodivergencies. A lot is going on in life as a teenager at home, in their friend groups, in class, with extracurricular activities. These normal life events can bring with them their own stress and anxieties. Teens with autism may even experience heightened feelings of stress, anxiety, or sensory overload, leading to feelings of being overwhelmed or even having a meltdown. 

Providing effective strategies to help find ways for your teen to calm down during these moments is essential to helping them manage these stresses with or without you present. We’re going to give you 5 calming techniques and strategies to help your teen with autism (and even you!) stay calm or calm down during times of increased anxiety. These tips are here to help your teen, and you, find calmness and comfort when needed.

Calm Collab

Before diving into specific calming strategies, it’s essential to recognize the importance of preparation and collaboration. Making sure you, your teen, and their support system recognize and understand their triggers, you can create a plan supporting their emotional well-being.

• Notice the Signs: Pay attention to your teen's behavior and learn to recognize the early signs of stress or anxiety. These might include repetitive movements, becoming unusually quiet, or showing frustration. Early recognition can help intervene before the stress escalates into a bigger issue.

• Work with Your Teen Outside of Meltdowns: Talking to your teen outside of stressful situations about their feelings and experiences helps them become more self-aware. Talk to them about what makes them feel anxious or upset and find out what actions make them feel most supported. 

• Collaborate with All Caregivers: Make sure that everyone involved in your teen's life – from family members, teachers, therapists, and other caregivers – is aware of the strategies you have in place. Consistency is key, so everyone being on the same page makes it easier for your teen to feel supported and safe.

5 Ways to Help Your Teen Calm Down

Once you’ve laid the groundwork, it's time to explore techniques to help your teen calm down when they’re feeling overwhelmed. These strategies are to help manage emotions and reduce anxiety.

1. Practice Breathing Techniques

Breathing techniques are one of the most straightforward and effective ways to calm down. Deep breathing helps slow the heart rate, relax muscles, and bring a sense of calm. Teach your teen to take deep breaths in through the nose, hold for a few seconds, and then slowly exhale through the mouth. Repeating this process several times can help reduce anxiety and provide a sense of control in stressful situations.

There are many different breathing exercises, like 4-7-8 Breathing or Box Breathing. 

Work together to find which technique your teen likes best. Then, practice these techniques together in a calm environment so your teen is familiar with them and can use them when needed.

2. Provide an Escape

Sometimes, the best way to manage overwhelming emotions is to have a safe escape. This could be a physical space (think a bedroom or a quiet area) or a sensory object (like a fidget spinner, slime, or a weighted blanket) that provides comfort.

Encourage your teen to identify their preferred "escape.” Having a go-to place or object can be incredibly soothing, especially during moments of sensory overload. Make sure this space or object is easily accessible, and remind your teen that it’s okay to take a break when they feel overwhelmed.

3. Exercise, A No Brainer

Physical activity is a fantastic way to reduce stress and improve mood. Exercise releases endorphins, chemicals in the brain that act as natural mood lifters. Encourage your teen to engage in physical activities they enjoy, anything from walking to swimming to playing a sport.

Exercise doesn’t have to be intense to be effective. Even a quick walk outside or doing a dance to their favorite song can make a big difference. Incorporating regular physical activity into their routine makes it easier for them to manage stress and be in control of their emotions.

4. Practice Yoga and Meditation

Yoga and meditation are wonderful tools for calming the mind and body. They focus on mindful movement, deep breathing, and relaxation, which reduces anxiety and promotes a sense of inner peace. Introducing yoga or meditation into your teen’s daily routine can help them better calm their mind and body effectively. 

Start with something simple, like beginner yoga videos or guided meditation podcasts. Online even offers plenty of free resources designed specifically for teens. Practicing regularly can help your teen build a strong foundation for managing stress and anxiety. Check out this video to get started.

5. Have These All in Place Ahead of Time

Preparation is the key to success. Get your teen familiar with these strategies before a stressful situation arises. Practicing in a calm environment allows your teen to build confidence in their ability.

You can even create a “calm down toolkit,” with items and instructions for each calming strategy. Include visual cues, written steps, or a small bag with sensory objects. Having this toolkit ready helps your teen know exactly what to do when they start feeling overwhelmed.

Acknowledge the Tough Days

It’s important to remember that even with the best preparation and strategies, there will be days when things don’t go as planned. Meltdowns can still happen, and that’s okay. Acknowledge these moments with your teen and reassure them that it’s alright to have tough days. Remind them that you’re on their team and that together, you can learn from these experiences and manage better in the future.

Conclusion

Helping teens with autism manage stress and anxiety is a team effort that involves preparation, communication, and consistency. Using these calming strategies provides your teen with the tools they need to feel more in control and confident in their ability to handle overwhelming situations.

At PS Academy Arizona, we are dedicated to supporting our students and their loved ones in every aspect of their lives, including emotional well-being. If you’d like to learn more about how we can help your teen thrive, please contact us today. We’re here to help!

5 Musts for Making Friends: A Guide for Teens With Autism

A Guide to Building Connections

Friendship is about so much more than simply being nice. It’s about finding and building upon a connection you have with someone else that can bring both of you support, memories, understanding, and so much more. Creating and helping friendships grow can be hard for anyone and teens with autism are no exception. If it feels like making friends has been challenging for you, our guide is here to help you understand where to start when it comes to making new friends. 

1. Understanding Social Cues

Social cues, like facial expressions and body language, are crucial for communication. They help people express their feelings without having to say it explicitly. It may be difficult for neurodivergent teens to understand how and when to notice and use these cues. 

Start by observing others and practice recognizing social signals. Notice how people smile or use different tones of voice and intonation when excited. Note how people act and speak in different situations, then practice them yourself. 

And if you're unsure, it's always okay to ask. By improving your ability to notice and use social cues, you can respond appropriately in different situations, which helps people know you are paying attention and acknowledging how they are feeling.

It’s also important to note that everyone makes mistakes in understanding facial and body cues sometimes! So don’t feel discouraged by a misunderstanding, keep going! Practice makes better.

2. Start with Shared Interests

Finding common ground is key to making friends. If you have a specific hobby or interest, like a particular book, video game, or TV show, use that as a starting point to meet others. You can join school or community clubs or online communities where people share your passions.

When you meet someone new, it’s important to learn about their interests, too. Ask open-ended questions. For example, instead of saying “Do you like The Office?” ask “What’s your favorite TV show?” Listen to what the person has to say, give your opinion if you’d like, and discover things you have in common. Having something in common is a great way to connect with others, which is the foundation of any friendship.

If the person you’re talking to doesn’t seem to have a lot of shared interests with you, that’s perfectly fine! It’s always good to practice asking questions and listening. The more people you talk to, the more opportunities you have to find new friends!

3. Practice Conversational Give & Take

Good conversations are a balance of talking and listening. Avoid talking about a single topic too long, even if it’s something you love. Instead, after a few minutes, ask the other person a question and show genuine interest in their response. This back-and-forth creates a flow that keeps the conversation engaging and enjoyable for both parties.

Remember, most social behaviors are learned! Just like you learned to say “please” and “thank you,” you can learn good conversation skills. They might feel unnatural at first, but with practice, they’ll easily become part of how you interact with others.

4. Build Self-Confidence

Confidence is key to social success, but it doesn’t always come easily. Like any skill you build, it can take effort and practice. One way is to practice (over and over and over) little social behaviors, like smiling, energetic greetings, or asking good questions, until these skills become second nature. Practicing these in safe or low-pressure environments, like with family or in a store, can also help build your confidence.

Another way to build confidence is with positive self-talk and positive actions. Make a note of what you have to be thankful for, anything from your haircut to your baseball card collection to your family, and find one thing that you like about yourself every day. You can also practice spreading positivity through your actions, whether you compliment someone or help your neighbor mow their lawn, these types of positive actions can help you feel accomplished and helpful, building your confidence in yourself.

Lastly, shift your focus when meeting others from "What will others think of me?" to "What can I bring to this interaction with others?" You’ll feel less pressure and more in control when you know what questions or interests you want to share. This mindset will help you approach social interactions with a more confident attitude.

5. Join Supportive Communities

Finding the right environment can make all the difference. A community filled with people who share similar interests and experiences as you is a great way to make connections and build friendships. At PS Academy Arizona, we understand the challenges neurodivergent teens face in social situations. Our programs are designed to help you build confidence, learn social skills, and connect with peers who appreciate you for who you are. Through sports, clubs, and other activities, you’ll connect with others in a setting made to support you!

Final Thoughts

Making friends as a teen with autism can be challenging, but with the right strategies, it can get easier with practice. By learning to read  social cues, building confidence, and finding communities with similar interests, you can form meaningful connections that enrich your life. Like most good things, friendships take time, so be patient with yourself and keep putting yourself out there. You’ve got this!

For more resources and support, or to learn how PS Academy Arizona can help you thrive in a school environment built to help you achieve your best, visit our website or reach out to us. We’re here to make sure you succeed in and out of school!

Strategies for Decision-Making for Teens with Autism

Decision-making can be difficult for anyone and teens with autism are no exception. Along with the usual worries, like making the wrong choice, teens with autism experience challenges that are unique to them. 

The ability to make independent decisions is an important life skill but can be overwhelming for those on the autism spectrum. This can be because of difficulties with processing information, sensory sensitivities, and anxiety. In this blog we will explore common decision-making challenges and offer practical strategies for teens and their loved ones to help them make choices with confidence.

Understanding Decision-Making Challenges

Teens with autism often struggle with decision-making because of the way they process information. Many can experience difficulties with executive functioning, which includes planning, organizing, and prioritizing tasks. 

This can make seemingly simple decisions, such as what to eat for lunch or which activity to participate in, overwhelming. Sensory sensitivities and anxiety can further complicate the decision-making process, leading to stress or even decision paralysis.

The Impact of Being Overwhelmed

When faced with multiple choices or complex decisions, teens with autism may become easily overwhelmed. This feeling of being overwhelmed can lead to avoidance behaviors, where they try to rely heavily on parents or caregivers to make decisions for them. While this may provide immediate relief, it hinders their ability to develop independence. 

It's important for parents to recognize when their child is overwhelmed and to offer support that encourages, rather than inhibits, independent decision-making.

Strategies for Supporting Decision-Making

1. Simplify Choices: One way to support decision-making is by simplifying your teen’s choices. Rather than presenting your teen with a wide variety of options, limit the choices to two or three. This can reduce their feeling of being overwhelmed and make the decision-making process more manageable.
   For example, instead of asking, "What would you like to do this weekend?" offer a choice between two specific activities, “Would you like to go for a bike ride or to the park this weekend?”

2. Use Visual Aids: Visual supports, such as charts, pictures, or written lists, are extremely helpful. They provide a clear and structured way to present options, making it easier for your teen to understand and evaluate their choices. Visual schedules or decision-making flowcharts can also guide them through the process step-by-step.

3. Encourage Predictability: Many teens with autism thrive on routine and predictability, so incorporate consistent decision-making opportunities. For example, having a set time each day for making decisions, such as planning meals or activities, can create a sense of stability. Combine this with visual aids such as chore charts to help your teen thrive in their decision-making.

4. Teach Problem-Solving Skills: Developing problem-solving skills is key to improving decision-making abilities. Parents can help their teens by teaching them how to break down decisions into smaller, more manageable steps. This might involve identifying the problem, considering possible solutions, evaluating the pros and cons of each option, and then making a choice.

5. Model Decision-Making: Parents can also model good decision-making behaviors by thinking aloud as they make decisions. This helps teens understand the thought process behind choosing between different options. By observing their parents or caregivers navigate decision-making, teens can learn valuable strategies that they can apply to their own choices​.

Promoting Independence While Offering Support

While it's important to encourage independence, it's equally important to provide the right level of support. Gradually increasing the complexity of decisions as your teen becomes more confident can help them build their decision-making skills over time. Be patient and offer praise for their efforts, even if the decisions they make are not always perfect. The goal is to build their confidence and help them feel more capable of making choices on their own​.

Encouraging Real-Life Practice

One of the best ways to strengthen decision-making skills is through real-life practice. Encourage your teen to make decisions in different situations, from choosing what to wear to deciding how to spend their free time. Provide opportunities for them to make mistakes and learn from them in a supportive environment. The more they practice, the more comfortable and independent they will become​.

Building Independence at PS Academy Arizona

Helping teens with autism develop strong decision-making skills is essential for fostering their independence and preparing them for adulthood. At PS Academy Arizona, we understand the unique challenges that come with autism and are committed to providing a supportive environment where students can learn, grow, and thrive. 

Our programs are designed to teach essential life skills, including decision-making, in a way that celebrates each student's individuality. We invite you to visit our website, schedule a tour, and learn more about how PS Academy Arizona can help your teen build the confidence and skills they need for a successful future.

A Guide to Creating Social Stories for Teens with Autism

Social stories help children and teens with autism understand and navigate different situations. These simple, personalized stories make a difference in a student's ability to interact with others and deal with new or challenging experiences. This guide will walk you through creating social stories to ensure they are effective and engaging for your teen.

Understanding Social Stories

Social stories are short narratives designed to teach social norms, routines, and skills to individuals with autism. They provide a clear, concise explanation of what to expect in given situations and offer guidance on appropriate responses. They are used to improve the child’s or teen’s understanding of social interactions and reduce anxiety in unfamiliar or challenging situations. Social stories are effective for students with autism to help them develop social and communication skills.

Identifying the Need

The first step in creating a social story is identifying what specific situation or behavior needs to be addressed. This could be anything from making friends to dealing with changes in routine to handling social interactions like greeting others or taking turns in conversation. Observe your teen's behavior and talk to them about different social situations. Consider moments when they seem anxious, confused or exhibit inappropriate responses. Common scenarios for social stories include starting a new school year, visiting the doctor, or participating in group activities.

Components of a Social Story

A well-crafted social story typically includes the following components:

• Title - A clear, concise title that reflects the story's content.

• Introduction - A brief introduction that sets the context for the story.

• Body - The main part of the story explains the situation in detail and provides guidance on appropriate behavior.

• Conclusion - A summary or closing statement that reinforces the key points.

Use simple language and include visual aids like pictures or illustrations to strengthen understanding. Each sentence should convey one idea or piece of information, making it easier to process.

Writing the Social Story

When writing a social story, it's important to be clear, concise and focused on the student's perspective. Here are some steps to follow:

• Describe the Situation - Begin by describing the situation in simple terms. 

• "When I go to the doctor, I might feel nervous."

• Explain the Expected Behavior - Clearly explain what is expected in the situation. 

• "I can tell the doctor how I feel and ask questions if I am unsure."

• Use Positive Language - Focus on positive behaviors and outcomes.

• "I will feel better after the doctor helps me."

• Personalize the Story - Tailor the story to your teen's specific needs and experiences. Use their name and refer to their personal preferences or experiences.

Implementing the Social Story

Once the social story is written, it's time to introduce it to your teen. Here are some strategies for effectively doing so:

• Read the social story with your teen regularly, especially before the anticipated situation occurs. This repetition helps reinforce important concepts.

• Engage your teen in discussions about the story. Ask questions to help them best understand and apply the information.

• Role-playing can also be a helpful way to practice the behaviors described in the story. This can make your teen more comfortable and confident in real-life situations.

• Monitoring your teen's response to the social story is crucial. Observe their behavior in the relevant situations and note any improvements or challenges. Gather feedback from teachers, therapists, or other caregivers who interact with your teen.

If the social story is not achieving the desired results, consider making adjustments. This could involve simplifying the language, adding more visual aids, or modifying the content to better suit your teen's needs. 

Creating Social Opportunities

Social stories are a valuable tool for helping students with autism navigate social situations and develop essential social skills. Following this guide, you can create social stories supporting your teen's growth and well-being.

At PS Academy Arizona, we are committed to providing the resources and support needed to ensure our students succeed. Get in touch with us to learn more about how we support teens with autism and other exceptionalities and help them to thrive.

A Guide to Sweet Dreams: Understanding and Addressing Sleep Challenges in Teens with Autism

Sleep challenges can be common among teens with autism, affecting many other aspects of their daily lives. These challenges reverberate through their emotional regulation, social connections, ability to focus, and academic performance. Understanding the impact of sleep disruptions on these fundamental areas calls attention to proactive intervention and support.

As caregivers and parents, addressing these challenges is a key contributor to maintaining the overall well-being and development of your teen. By doing so proactively, we can provide the necessary support to help navigate their sleep difficulties and help them thrive.

Sleep Difficulties Your Teen with Autism May Face

Falling Asleep

There are a myriad of sleep challenges in teens with autism, each presenting its own set of difficulties. One common struggle is trouble falling asleep, characterized by difficulty winding down and transitioning into sleep mode. This can stem from various factors, including sensory sensitivities, heightened anxiety, or an inability to quiet the mind before bedtime. As a result, they may find themselves tossing and turning for extended periods before finally drifting off to sleep.

Staying Asleep

Staying asleep poses another hurdle, as your teen may frequently awaken during the night or struggle to return to sleep after waking up. Factors such as sensory sensitivities or discomfort from environmental stimuli can contribute to these nighttime awakenings, heightening the challenge of maintaining restful sleep throughout the night. 

Bright lights, loud noises, or uncomfortable textures may trigger sensory overload, making it difficult for them to settle down and prepare for sleep. Similarly, tactile sensitivities may render traditional bedding and sleepwear uncomfortable, further intensifying their difficulties in achieving restful sleep.

Sleep-Wake Cycles

Your teen may experience irregular sleep patterns characterized by fluctuations in their sleep-wake cycles. These irregularities may manifest because of atypical secretion of melatonin, the hormone responsible for regulating sleep-wake cycles; or disruptions in circadian rhythms, the internal body clock that governs the timing of sleep and wakefulness. As a result, your teen may struggle to establish a consistent sleep routine, leading to further disruptions in their overall sleep quality and duration.

Anxiety

Anxiety is another significant contributor to sleep disturbances, as heightened levels of stress and worry can impede your teen’s ability to relax and fall asleep. 

The anticipation of social interactions, academic pressures, or changes in routine may trigger anxiety symptoms, such as racing thoughts and restlessness at bedtime. As a result, your teen may experience prolonged periods of lying awake in bed, unable to quiet their anxious mind, and drift off into sleep.

How Sleep Disruptions Affect Teens During the Day

Sleep disturbances have far-reaching effects on the daytime functioning, behavior, and overall well-being of your teen and can impact various aspects of their daily lives. Persistent sleep difficulties can lead to daytime fatigue, irritability, and difficulty concentrating, impairing their ability to engage effectively in daily activities. 

Adequate and restorative sleep is essential for optimal brain development and cognitive functioning, laying the foundation for future success and independence. By prioritizing sleep health and implementing targeted interventions, parents and caregivers can help reduce their teen’s sleep problems, achieve better sleep, and unlock their full potential.

Tips for Parents and Caregivers

Parents and caregivers are pivotal in supporting teens with autism in establishing healthy sleep habits and promoting restful nights. 

Bedtime Routines

Creating a calming bedtime routine tailored to each teen's individual needs can significantly enhance their ability to unwind and prepare for sleep. A key component of this routine is creating a serene sleep environment free from distractions and sensory triggers. Dimming the lights, reducing noise levels, and ensuring a comfortable sleep surface can help set the stage for a peaceful night's rest.

Sensory Tools for Sleep

In addition to environmental modifications, incorporating sensory tools that resonate with the teen's preferences can further facilitate relaxation and promote sleep. Tools such as white noise machines, weighted blankets, and soft bedding can provide comforting sensory input, helping to soothe and calm the nervous system. These tools offer a sense of security and familiarity, aiding in the transition to sleep and reducing nighttime restlessness.

Winding Down

Along with recommendations, reducing stimuli in the hours leading up to bedtime can help signal to the teen's body that it is time to wind down and prepare for sleep. Limiting screen time, engaging in calming activities, and avoiding stimulating foods and beverages can promote a state of relaxation conducive to sleep. 

Incorporating calming techniques such as deep breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, or gentle stretching can further enhance the bedtime routine, promoting relaxation and easing tension in the body and mind.

Consistency

Establishing a consistent bedtime routine is essential for teens with autism, providing structure and predictability to their evenings. Consistency helps regulate their internal body clock and reinforces the association between bedtime and sleep. By collaborating with healthcare professionals, parents and caregivers can gain valuable insights and support in addressing any underlying medical or behavioral issues contributing to sleep disturbances. 

Getting Everyone a Good Night’s Sleep

Together, these strategies empower parents and caregivers to create an optimal sleep environment and support their teens in achieving restful nights and improved overall well-being.

It's important to note that managing sleep difficulties requires a multifaceted approach. This involves creating a calming bedtime routine, incorporating sensory tools, reducing stimuli, establishing consistency, and collaborating with healthcare professionals. By addressing sleep challenges from multiple angles, parents and caregivers can optimize their teen's sleep environment and support them in achieving restful nights.

If you're a parent or caregiver of a teen with autism, navigating the routines and care needed for your teen to thrive can sometimes feel overwhelming. PS Academy Arizona offers programs designed to provide tailored support and resources to meet the unique needs of teens with autism, ADD/ADHD, learning disabilities, or those who struggle in typical school settings.

Our programs cater to students between the ages of 12 and 22, focused on individual student needs rather than solely on their diagnosis. With over 30 clubs and electives, state-of-the-art facilities, and a comprehensive transition program, we prioritize student success and provide a supportive environment conducive to growth and development. 

Contact us here to learn how we can support your teen on their journey to success, offering a nurturing educational environment where they can thrive academically, socially, and emotionally.

4 DIY Projects for Teens with Autism: STEM at Home

Engaging in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math) activities at home can be both educational and enjoyable for teens with autism. Activities like constructing a volcano or producing stop-motion animation offer hands-on learning opportunities that foster problem-solving skills, focus, and creativity. This blog post outlines four DIY STEM projects perfect for home execution, using simple materials to stimulate your teen's interest in science and technology.

Sensory-Friendly STEM Activities for Teens with Autism

1) Building a Fidget Maze

The National Autistic Society notes that fidget toys can be a great tool for teens with autism, helping them manage anxiety and improve focus.  

Materials

• Cardboard box

• Craft supplies (paint, markers, colored paper, etc.)

• Marbles or small objects

• Items for sensory elements (felt, bells, crinkly paper, etc.)

Instructions

1. Decorate the cardboard box to create the exterior of the maze.

2. Cut openings on the sides and top of the box to create a path for the marbles or objects to travel through.

3. Glue or tape different textures and objects inside the maze to create sensory elements.

4. Encourage customization! Let your teen personalize the maze with their favorite colors, themes, and textures.

2) DIY Lava Lamp

The calming and mesmerizing effects of lava lamps can provide visual stimulation and relaxation.

Materials

• Water bottle (clear plastic)

• Vegetable oil

• Alka-Seltzer tablets (adult supervision required)

• Food coloring

Instructions

1. Fill the water bottle ¾ of the way with water.

2. Add vegetable oil to fill the rest of the bottle, leaving a small air pocket at the top.

3. Add a few drops of food coloring to the water and oil mixture.

4. When ready to activate the lamp, drop a small piece of Alka-Seltzer tablet into the bottle. The lava lamp effect will begin as the tablet reacts with the mixture.

Important: Adult supervision is required when using Alka-Seltzer tablets.

Tech-Focused STEM Activities

3) Coding Challenge

Coding teaches valuable skills like logical thinking and problem-solving. Many free, beginner-friendly coding websites and apps are available, such as Scratch or CodeMonkey.

Challenge

Here's a simple coding challenge to get started:  try animating a character on the screen to move in a specific pattern, like a square or a triangle.

4. Stop-Motion Animation Project

Stop-motion animation is a fun and creative way to tell a story.

Materials

• Smartphone

• Stop-motion animation app (like Stop Motion Studio)

• Small objects or toys

Instructions

1. Download a stop-motion animation app on your smartphone.

2. Set up your scene using small objects or toys.

3. Take a picture with the app, then move the objects slightly to create the illusion of movement.

4. Repeat steps 3 and 4 to capture multiple frames of animation.

5. Use the app to compile the pictures into a short stop-motion animation.

STEM activities offer a fantastic way for teens with autism to develop focus, problem-solving skills, and creativity.  These DIY projects are a fun and engaging way to learn through play.

Safety Tips

• Always supervise younger teens while completing DIY projects.

• Follow instructions carefully, especially when using household materials.

Modifications

These activities can be modified to cater to different interests or sensory needs. For example, you can use alternative materials for the fidget maze or create a silent lava lamp by omitting the Alka-Seltzer tablet.

STEM Sparks Creativity

These DIY STEM projects for teens with autism are more than just educational tasks; they're stepping stones to discovery, innovation, and personal growth. Dive into these activities and watch your teen's curiosity and skills blossom.

Are you looking for more STEM inspiration? Explore more in our other blogs - there is a treasure trove of activities that spark creativity and learning.

My Teen with Autism is Depressed. What Can I Do?

Parenting a teen with autism comes with a unique blend of challenges and beautiful moments. But at times life for your teen might be overshadowed by worry. Depression is slightly more common in teens with autism, and it's crucial to know the signs and how to help.

Understanding Depression in Teens with Autism

• Teens with autism are more likely to experience depression than their neurotypical peers [1]. This can be due to several factors. Social situations can be confusing and overwhelming, leading to feelings of isolation. Sensory overload, common in autism, can be a constant source of stress. Difficulty with change and transitions can also contribute to depressive episodes [2].

Recognizing the Signs

Social withdrawal is a classic symptom of depression, but teens with autism might already have a preference for solitude.  Here are some key signs to watch for that might indicate depression in a teenager with autism. 

• Changes in mood - Increased irritability, sadness that lingers for weeks, or a loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy are all potential signs.

• Changes in behavior - Difficulty concentrating in school, increased meltdowns, or neglecting personal hygiene can be indicators. More severe or frequent repetitive/compulsive behavior is also associated with depression in teens with autism.

• Changes in sleep or appetite - Sleeping too much or too little, changes in eating habits, or unexplained weight loss/gain can be red flags.

• Loss of hope - Talking about feeling hopeless or worthless, or expressing thoughts of self-harm are serious signs that require immediate attention.

Opening Up the Conversation

Creating a safe space for open communication with your teen who has autism involves a blend of understanding, patience, and the right tools. Here are concrete steps and resources to help parents facilitate this important aspect of their teen’s emotional development:

Introduce Visual Communication Tools

Utilize picture boards or flashcards that represent a range of emotions. These can be homemade or purchased. Visual aids help your teen identify and express feelings without the pressure of finding the right words.

Consider apps like Mood Meter, designed to help users identify and communicate their emotions through a simple, color-coded chart.

Establish a Communication Routine

Dedicate a specific time each day for “check-ins” using a method that suits your teen best. This could be during a calm moment after dinner or before bedtime.

• Use tools like emotion diaries or journals, where your teen can draw or write about their day. Encourage them to share whatever they're comfortable with, even if it's just a drawing or a single word.

Embrace Technology for Expression

Explore apps designed for nonverbal communication or emotional expression, such as Proloquo2Go. These apps offer pictorial and text options for users to express complex emotions and thoughts.

• Set up a shared digital journal or blog where you and your teen can post pictures, videos, or text about your feelings and daily experiences. Platforms like Day One or simple Google Docs can facilitate this.

Create a 'Feelings Box'

Together with your teen, decorate a box where you both can drop notes or drawings about how you’re feeling. Regularly go through the box together, discussing each entry without judgment.

This physical act of expressing and sharing can be a therapeutic way for your teen to see their feelings acknowledged and respected.

Use Storytelling and Role-Playing Games

Engage in storytelling or role-playing games that explore various scenarios and emotions. This method can help your teen understand and articulate feelings in a safe, controlled environment.

Rory’s Story Cubes or creating personalized storyboards together can be a fun and insightful way to explore emotions and appropriate responses.

Encourage Creative Outlets

Facilitate access to creative forms of expression like painting, music, or dance. These activities can offer an alternative way for your teen to express emotions they can’t easily put into words.

Apps like GarageBand for music or Tayasui Sketches for drawing provide platforms for digital artistic expression.

Seeking Professional Help

Depression is a treatable condition. Don't hesitate to seek professional help from a therapist or pediatrician experienced with autism and adolescent depression [4]. Therapy options like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can equip your teen with healthy coping mechanisms to manage their emotions. Social skills training can also be incredibly beneficial in helping them navigate social situations more confidently [5].

Supporting Your Teen at Home

While professional help is crucial, your support at home makes a world of difference:

• Maintain a predictable routine - Having a clear schedule with consistent expectations can provide structure and comfort for your teen, reducing anxiety and potential triggers.

• Prioritize healthy habits - Encourage regular exercise and a consistent sleep schedule to support overall well-being. Exercise releases endorphins that can improve mood, and a good night's sleep helps regulate emotions.

• Validate their feelings - Listen attentively without judgment. Let them know their emotions are valid and that you're there to support them.

• Find activities they enjoy - Help them explore interests and hobbies that bring them joy, especially those that promote social interaction if that's something they desire. Engaging in activities can combat feelings of isolation and boost their mood.

Additional Resources

The road to recovery can be long, but with the right support, your teen can feel better. There are many support groups online with parents who are going through the same thing. Joining a group and finding the right support is a great first step.

Support Groups Online for Parents of Teens with Autism

• Parents of Teens with High Functioning Autism Transitioning to Adulthood

• Parents of Teens with Autism (International)

• Parents Of Young Adults (13+) With Autism

• Autism Parenting + Wellbeing

• Autism Parents Support Group

Finding the Right Support System

Schools that specialize in autism can provide a supportive environment that caters to your teen's unique needs.  Here at PS Academy Arizona, we offer a structured environment that can be instrumental in helping your teen not only manage their depression but also thrive in all areas of life. 

Sources:

1. Autism Speaks: https://www.autismspeaks.org/autism-facts-and-figures

2. Understood.org: https://www.understood.org/en/articles/what-is-autism

3. The Arc: https://thearc.org/

4. American Academy of Child and Adolescent

Autism Awareness is Cool, but Acceptance is Better

"Until you have walked in someone else's shoes, you don't know the strength of their sole." 

-Unknown

With the speed of modern life, many of us get caught up in our lives and forget that others are equally as complex as we are. We can often be unaware of how our behavior affects others.. We can sometimes accidentally hurt, neglect, and annoy even those closest to us without realizing it. 

But if we make an effort to stop for a second and appreciate the lives of others as equally rich and complex as our own, we simply see a different world. Awareness alone is cool, but acceptance is better. If we can accept, then we can effectively help those who need it, and if we can help effectively, then step by step, we can slowly make a change in other people’s lives. 

Understanding the distinctions between autism awareness and acceptance is important for fostering a truly inclusive society. While awareness often means recognizing the existence of autism spectrum disorder, acceptance delves deeper into embracing neurodiversity and advocating for the accommodation of diverse needs. It goes above and beyond acknowledgment, emphasizes respect and empathy, and creates environments where individuals with autism can thrive authentically. 

This shift from awareness to acceptance requires recognizing each person's unique strengths and challenges, promoting genuine inclusion, and dismantling stereotypes and stigmas surrounding autism. Acceptance fosters a culture of empathy and understanding.

Incredible Stories of Autism Acceptance

Acceptance is more than just recognizing differences; it's about recognizing the diverse strengths and experiences of people on the spectrum. What better way to do so than to turn to real life for inspiration? Plenty of amazing individuals have not only overcome challenges but have also been incredibly successful, showcasing the potential of the autism community. Their stories inspire us to build understanding, support, and inclusion for all.

Ever heard of a comedian who saw ghosts and made us laugh 'til we cried? That's Dan Aykroyd. Diagnosed with autism late in life, Dan used his unique way of seeing the world to create hilarious characters on Saturday Night Live and bust ghosts in Ghostbusters. Despite facing social challenges, Dan's creativity is legendary!

Climate change got you worried? Greta Thunberg is right there with you. She’s a total rockstar activist who fighting for our planet. Diagnosed with Asperger's, Greta's passion for the environment is unstoppable. She's inspiring millions to take action, showing that anyone can change the world, neurodiversity and all!

Think acting is just for extroverts? Nope! Sir Anthony Hopkins, the man behind characters like Hannibal Lecter, has autism too. Overcoming communication hurdles, Anthony's acting skills are award-winning.  He's proof that autism can come with incredible strengths and a talent for captivating audiences.

These amazing people show us that autism is something to celebrate. By embracing their unique journeys, they're paving the way for a more inclusive world where everyone can shine. 

How PS Academy Fosters Acceptance

At PS Academy Arizona, acceptance is at our core. Here, we look past the label and focus on the able, encouraging students to explore their interests, uncover their passions, make friends, join clubs, attend dances, and finally be comfortable with just being themselves. 

We’re more than just a school - we’re a community. This is a safe space for your teen to flourish and make friends, all while focusing on academics, choosing from 30+ clubs and electives, and learning real-world skills in our transition program. If your student wants to thrive in an environment of acceptance versus awareness, get in touch to learn more about our programs, or askabout how you can qualify for free tuition.

A Guide to Having 'The Talk' with Your Teen with Autism

Navigating the journey of adolescence with a teen with autism is unique and multifaceted. Parents often grapple with how to approach sensitive topics like puberty and relationships. This expanded guide offers in-depth insights and practical advice for having these essential conversations, aiming to bridge gaps and strengthen connections.

Building Trust and Communication

The foundation of effective communication with your teen lies in the trust built over the years. It's crucial to establish a rapport where your teen feels comfortable sharing and asking questions. Regular, open discussions about day-to-day life can pave the way for more profound conversations later. Engage in activities your teen enjoys, listen actively to their concerns, and share your experiences where relevant. This approach fosters an environment of mutual respect and understanding.

Initiating 'The Talk'

Starting this conversation can be daunting. Choose a time and place where both you and your teen are at ease. You might say, "I've noticed some of your friends are going through changes. Have you felt any changes yourself?" or "In this movie we watched, the character was dealing with school crushes. What do you think about that?" These openers provide a natural segue into discussing puberty and relationships.

Comprehensive Discussion on Physical Changes

When having ‘the talk’, it’s important to address the physical aspects of puberty with clarity and detail so your teen knows that the changes they are having, or will have soon, are normal. 

• If you are talking to your son, talk about the development of secondary sexual characteristics like voice deepening, facial and body hair growth, muscle development, and changes in reproductive organs. 

• If the conversation is with your daughter, elaborate on menstruation, breast development, and body changes. Discuss the menstrual cycle, addressing practical aspects like using sanitary products and maintaining hygiene.

Embracing Emotional and Social Changes

Puberty is also an emotional rollercoaster. Discuss how mood swings and feelings of attraction are normal. Emphasize that it's okay to feel confused or overwhelmed and encourage them to express their emotions. Use characters from their favorite stories to illustrate how people manage complex emotions and social interactions.

Navigating Relationships and Consent

It's essential to discuss the dynamics of relationships, consent, and respect. Explain that consent means agreeing to something without pressure or coercion. Use scenarios, perhaps from a TV show or a book, to illustrate what respectful relationships and boundaries look like.

Addressing Sexuality and Safe Practices

When discussing sexuality, approach it with openness and without judgment. Explain the biological aspects of sex and the importance of safe practices, like using protection to prevent STDs and unplanned pregnancies. Discuss the emotional readiness required for sexual relationships and the value of mutual respect and understanding between partners.

Handling Difficult Questions with Honesty

Be prepared for unexpected questions and answer them with honesty and sensitivity. 

Question: "Why do people date?"

Answer: "Dating is a way people get to know each other better and often share feelings. It’s about companionship and sometimes finding someone you might want to be with long-term."

Question: "What if I don't feel the same way as others?"

Answer: "Everyone experiences these feelings differently. It's perfectly okay if you feel differently than your peers. What matters is understanding and respecting your feelings."

You can make a list of questions you think may come up before you have the discussion so you’re better prepared.

Getting Started

Engaging in 'The Talk' with your teen with autism is a continuous process that fosters understanding and trust. It's an opportunity to guide them through a significant life stage, ensuring they feel supported and informed. 

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How to High School: A Parent’s Guide for Teens with Autism

Welcome to the high school years - a time that’s as much about finding algebra solutions as it is about discovering oneself. For teens with autism, this journey is dotted with unique experiences and milestones. As a parent, you play multiple roles – you’re the guiding hand, the number one fan, and sometimes, the late-night study partner. In this guide, we’ll walk through practical and effective ways to support your teen with autism through high school, turning challenges into opportunities for growth and learning.

Getting to Know the High School World

• Exploring the Landscape - The high school universe is more than just classrooms. It's a mix of new routines, faces, and spaces. Help your teen get familiar with the school layout, key personnel, and where to find their safe spots.

• Small Wins Count - That moment when they join a conversation at lunch or tackle a group project? Pure gold. Celebrate these milestones - they are big confidence boosters.

Making Social Strides

• Finding Their Tribe - High school clubs aren't just about hobbies; they're the backdoor to finding friends. Whether it’s through the art studio, the computer lab, or the theater stage, these are the places where your teen can meet their crew.

• Social Skills in Real-Time - High school is the ultimate social skills lab. Chat about scenarios they might encounter, like how to join a group conversation or ask for help in class. Sometimes, role-playing these situations at home can ease the real-world jitters.

Academics: More Than Just Grades

• Tailored Learning Paths - Work with teachers to carve out learning strategies that play to your teen’s strengths. Remember, it’s about understanding the material, not just memorizing it.

Beyond the Classroom

• Life Skills for the Win - High school is also about learning life skills. Encourage your teen to try new things like using public transport, managing a budget, or planning their study time.

• Emotional Check-Ins - The high school rollercoaster can bring on a whirlwind of emotions. Regular check-ins can help you gauge how your teen is handling the ups and downs.

A Launch Pad to the Future

High school is more than a phase; it’s a launching pad. With the right support and guidance, your teen with autism can not only navigate but thrive during these high school years.

If you're exploring educational environments that genuinely understand and cater to the needs of teens with autism, consider what PS Academy Arizona has to offer. Our school is more than just an academic institution; it’s a vibrant community where every student finds their place and thrives.

• Diverse Clubs and Electives - We believe in nurturing every student's unique talents and interests. Our wide array of clubs and electives, ranging from Rock Band to Robotics, Art classes to Survival Cooking, provide students with autism the opportunity to explore their passions, develop new skills, and connect with peers who share their interests. These activities are not just hobbies; they are avenues for real growth and learning.

• Social Skills in Action - We understand the importance of social development for teens with autism. That’s why our school environment is designed to encourage social interaction and build meaningful relationships. Through clubs like Dungeons & Dragons, and Girl Power, and electives like Musical Theatre and Digital Art, students engage in collaborative and fun activities that enhance their communication and teamwork skills.

• A Supportive Community - We believe every student is part of a community that celebrates their individuality and supports their journey. Our dedicated staff and tailored programs ensure that each student not only excels academically but also develops the confidence and social skills needed for life beyond high school.

Choosing PS Academy Arizona means opting for a school where your teen with autism will not just learn but will also experience the joys of friendship, the thrill of discovery, and the pride of personal achievement. Schedule a tour to discover how we can be part of your teen’s high school experience.